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It’s Not Your Job To Convert Anyone

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On Sunday it was St Andrew’s Day and I was in church listening to a sermon about Andrew (and the namesake of our church), that often overlooked disciple, meeting Jesus for the first time. In John’s Gospel, it says:

John 1:40–42
One of the two who heard John speak and followed him was Andrew, Simon Peter’s brother. He first found his brother Simon and said to him, ‘We have found the Messiah’… He brought Simon to Jesus.

As I sat there listening to our vicar speak about evangelism and how we should be more like Andrew in bringing people to meet Jesus, something from many, many years ago flickered to life in the back of my mind. A realisation I had long ago that gave me a great sense of freedom. Something I think I had forgotten, unfortunately (so thank God for the reminder!).

There was a point in my life when I finally understood the relief of letting go of a burden I didn’t even realise I was carrying: it’s not my job to convert people. It was never Andrew’s. And it’s not yours either.

Our role — our real and most basic calling — is simply to introduce people to Jesus. We get to be the planters and the waterers, but God is the one who brings the growth. As Paul writes:

1 Corinthians 3:6
I planted, Apollos watered, but God gave the growth.

When this truth sinks in, it strips away the pressure, the anxiety, and the awkward “sales-pitch” mentality that we sometimes (without realising it) attach to evangelism.

And this ties into something even deeper: our basic calling as Christians is the Great Commission, Jesus’ final instruction to His followers:

Matthew 28:19–20
Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptising them… and teaching them…

But it dawned on me that all of those actions: teaching, mentoring, discipling, baptising; they all come after someone has come to faith.

We are not told to convert people. We are told to make disciples. Conversion is the doorway into discipleship, yes, but that moment of heart-opening and illumination belongs to God alone. Our job is simply to bring people to the Lord, to make the introduction. If they choose to stay, if they choose to follow then we begin the work of discipling, teaching, and baptising.

Think of evangelism like inviting someone to a feast.

We can bring someone to the meal, we can tell them how good it tastes, maybe even share how it changed our life… but whether or not they like the food is out of our control. That part isn’t up to us. Or to use an old expression: “you can lead a horse to water… but you can’t make it drink”.

And honestly, that’s such a freeing realisation.

It turns evangelism from a heavy responsibility into a joyful invitation:
 “Come and see.”
 “Come meet Him.”
 “Taste and see that the Lord is good.”

That last phrase echoes the Psalm:

Psalm 34:8
O taste and see that the LORD is good.

Andrew never argued Peter into belief. He never crafted an apologetic defence or theological persuasion. He simply said, “We’ve found the Messiah,” and he brought him to Jesus. That was enough. The rest was up to Jesus.

And maybe that’s the model we need far more than we think.

Evangelism isn’t a performance. It isn’t a debate. It isn’t a pressure.

It’s an invitation.

Once we realise that all the real work happens in the hands of God, it changes everything for us. It removes the fear. It removes the self-consciousness. It removes the burden of success or failure. Because there is no failure when your role is simply to point the way.

So let’s be like Andrew: quietly faithful, gently invitational, always ready to say, “Come meet the one who changed everything for me”.

Because at the end of the day, that’s all we were ever asked to do.

 


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